This is an interview with Ashley Frater. A business coach who helps ambitious new coaches gain confidence in their marketing and sales in order to reach their first 5k. They discuss self sabotage and how to overcome the fear by taking actions.
Ashley began her career as an event planner before transitioning into coaching entrepreneurs because she realized how difficult it is to build an online business. It doesn’t matter what niche you’re in because everyone feels the same way about being online rather than face to face, where confidence and mindset are suddenly important factors.
She describes self-sabotage as a systemic fear. It prevents you from achieving your goal and is frequently disguised as fear of rejection and fear of failure. If you keep those negative beliefs buried deep within your subconscious mind, they will clash with your external conscious goal.
There are goals that are meant to help you grow, and then there are objectives that are the exact opposite of that. It’s not aligned, so she suggests giving yourself a wall power push to win the middle part, which is the overall behavior.
One of the fears that entrepreneurs have is the fear of shame. Obsession with the perfection of things. This type of feeling is buried at the bottom; it does not disguise itself as shame at first, but only when you are vulnerable. You can’t control the responses you get online, which causes you to doubt, worry, and feel overwhelmed.
Shame is at the root of imposter syndrome because you don’t want people to believe you’re incompetent or have any bad ideas about you. Your habits are the best approach to pick it up. Figure out what’s holding you down and making you feel ashamed. Most entrepreneurs forget about their previous achievements, both personally and professionally, as soon as they go online.
As a result, she advises her clients to write a love letter to themselves every evening and morning, depending on when they want to write, keep a journal, and pick a time of day that works for them to write at least one major accomplishment that they’re proud of. It’s also a good idea to write it as though you’re speaking to a younger version of yourself. It’s a gentle reminder that you performed well for the day.
She explained that confidence is a journey rather than a destination. It’s something we work on on a daily basis. Allowing days to be what they are and accepting both good and the bad. To stay grounded, just stay focused on your goals. It’s okay to have a bad day, as long as you remain on track with your work.
According to Ashleigh, gaining confidence is not easy. So, you must go through a self-healing process. Dig up all the things you don’t like, look into the things that don’t seem right, or seek the help of a third party to help you realize what you’re doing. Acceptance and moving on are important parts of self-healing. It’s a journey of self-discovery that will help you gain confidence.
Ashleigh Frater is a Business Coach, Supporting ambitious new coaches build confidence in their marketing and sales to make their first 5k.
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Learning how to deal with fear and in time overcoming it, is not only courageous but also necessary.